Counseling for Faith Deconstruction
Questions and doubts are welcome here
“To struggle with one’s faith is often the surest sign we actually have one.” - AJ Swoboda
You may have arrived here because…
You belong to a spiritual community, family or church, that you don’t feel comfortable asking hard questions about the faith.
This period of questioning has been painful and isolating for you. Intellectually you may believe that God is ok with these questions, but that isn’t your current experience.
Learning to live with the tension – figuring out what was good about the tradition you were given and what was accidental and arbitrary
You might be afraid of what will happen to you if you leave the faith and how that might impact your support system. This is true even if you don’t leave the faith, but your faith practices or beliefs look different than they used to. Here are some other common stages of faith deconstruction.
You feel lost and unsure who you are because the foundation that you built your life on seems unstable and shaky and no longer is able to hold you.
You are worth being seen and heard during this process.
I see doubts and questions as a natural part of your personal growth and as a way of processing and making sense of the world. It’s a sign that you’re engaging and want to connect the dots between the parts of you that seem at odds with each other.
I’d love to lend you my curiosity and sense of safety as we explore questions and wonderings that may not always be easily accessible in the midst of these major shifts in your life.
It is possible for you to feel aligned and connected to all parts of yourself. It’s not just “ok” to ask the hard questions, it may be necessary and a healthy part of your overall story. On the other side, you will feel more whole, regain a sense of your identity, and feel a greater sense of safety to be able to hold even more honest conversations with yourself and others.